For all the nurses who heal with compassion after stillbirth and miscarriage

To The Nurses Whose Compassion Helped Me Heal After My Baby Was Stillborn

To the nurses, Thank you for saving me. Your skills and your knowledge saved me from following my daughter into death, but it was your compassion that guided me back towards life. The humanity you demonstrated is what brought me back into life; you made it possible to think about living after death. For this,…

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Can A Marriage Survive Pregnancy loss and infertility?

The Question That Can Collapse A Marriage–What If We Never Have A Child?

A romantic relationship is built on the answers to some very important questions.  Questions like, “Where do you see this going?”  can cement for us whether a certain person is the one.  These questions help us to determine if a person shares your dreams for the future. It’s an opportunity to map out the building…

After pregnancy loss you watch as your whens become ifs.

After Miscarriage and Stillbirth The Whens Became Ifs

Losing three babies in two years changed me.  Gone was the woman who spoke in absolutes.  No longer was I the person who punctuated her statements with certainty.  Two miscarriages and a stillbirth changed literally changed the way I spoke. After losing three babies--my whens became ifs. With each loss, I felt less and less…

Five things to remember when you are pregnant after a loss.

The 5 Things I Hope You Remember During Your Pregnancy after Loss Journey

The pregnancy after loss journey is…complicated. It is every emotion that you have ever felt and they are all struggling to exist together.  You may feel like you are faced with an ever-growing list of things to do and remember. I know how that feels.  So, when it all feels too daunting and you doubt…

Losing a baby gets easier--and it never stops being hard.

Losing A Baby Gets Easier–And It Never Stops Being Hard

The experience of having your baby die--it is hard stuff. Those first minutes and days and weeks feel impossible.  You find yourself living minute to minute.  You are just trying to get one moment further in this new life you didn't ask for.  The most basic tasks of living feel arduous.  Breathing, eating, bathing, sitting…

Men don't grieve differently because they are men, they grieve differently because no one grieves the same.

Let’s Stop Telling Men How They Grieve–Just Let Them Grieve

So often when we talk about pregnancy and infant loss, there is a light being shone on the bereaved mother.  She is vulnerable and strong all at once.  She inspires our deepest sympathies and encourages us to listen to her story. But, what about the fathers? Despite our best intentions, women have become the face…

Sharing your story of loss and grief is a courageous act.

To Those Who Know The Heartbreak Of Pregnancy & Infant Loss–Your Story Is A Blessing

These words are for those who have known the heartache of pregnancy and infant loss-the mothers and fathers, grandparents, and loved ones.  I am writing for those of you who so lovingly share your stories of loss and the photos of your babies gone too soon. I need you to know something. Your story is…