It’s Not Just Mothers That Have Lost A Baby–Let Us Not Forget The Dads

We need to remember that dads are heartbroken by baby loss too.

Let’s take a moment to recognize the dads–the grieving dads. When people acknowledge pregnancy and infant loss, they turn to the moms with their comfort and support. But it’s not just the mothers who have lost a baby.

Let us not forget the dads and their own experiences with the heartbreak of losing a baby.

We can’t forget about the dads who sat in hospital chairs with us while we waited. The dads who held our hands when we stared at silent screens. Let’s remember the dads who asked “Can I hold her now?” because they knew that time was precious.

Let us recognize the dads who came running when we yelled that something was wrong. The dads who felt helpless.

We need to acknowledge the dads who would do anything to fix this and who must accept that this is a problem that can’t be fixed.

We should remember the dads who couldn’t leave work but would be there as soon as they could.  The dads who drove us to appointments even when they were so distraught they couldn’t see where they were going. We have nothing but love for the dads who said “It’s okay,” even when it wasn’t.

There are the dads who knew just what to say and the dads who struggled to find the words. The dads who have cried and the dads who have never cried. We must also remember the dads who are afraid to cry for fear of drowning in the tears.

This is for the dads who speak up for us. The dads who stand beside us.

Let us not forget the dads who carry children in their hearts.

This is for the bereaved dads. The grieving dads. The strongest dads there are.

These dads of ours, they are so deeply loved and not just for their strength of character. They are loved because they are proof of just how strong a father can love and just how far that love can reach.

This is for the dads who prove that a heart is stronger than any pair of arms.

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5 thoughts on “It’s Not Just Mothers That Have Lost A Baby–Let Us Not Forget The Dads

  1. We lost our first born jacob jr to anencephaly, was very hard he stayed with us about 10 mins and then passed away. I have a 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship who the mother took off and i kept my child. My fiance and i have our jacob, 2 year old daughter, 1 year old son and a new born baby girl due anytime now. I built my sons casket, very hard to go through and will push and test patience that didnt know was there. As a father i did feel like i didnt have anyone, everyone was focused on my fiance which theres no problem with that shes the mother she carried him in her. Just wish i had more support at the time, i was lost felt like everything was just ripped from my body. I wouldn’t trade the time i had with him for anything. After that always wanted to start something for grieving fathers/parents for expecting and unexpecting.

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    1. Thank you for sharing. Dads need to hear from others when they experience loss. They especially need the support of other dads. ❤️ I’m so sorry about Jacob. I’m glad he’s a part of your life, I just wish he could have stayed longer.

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    2. I understand your pain, your frustration, your emptiness and your loneliness. I too lost a son shortly after birth. I was so busy taking care of my wife and other kids that I didn’t get to spend much time with him. I was more focused on making sure my wife and our friends were comforted during my time of grief than I was on spending time with my son. Now I struggle with guilt and regret that I didn’t put my time into him while he was here. I love my son and I know he knew I loved him, it’s just hard at times. Prayers for you brother and your family. One day we will get that time back.

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