Sometimes there are no words to truly explain what it’s like to have your baby die. It can be hard to find a way to explain your heartbreak and your grief.
But, sometimes there are words that come close. Words that resonate with your experience. Sometimes you find the words that your heart needs.
Here are 15 quotes that may bring some comfort to the parent whose baby has died.
There were a million things I wanted to say to you, ‘goodbye’ was not one of them. –Zoe Clark-Coates
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes. The lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest, grief is just love with no place to go. -Jamie Anderson
There is a unique place that comes from preparing a place in your heart for a child that never comes. -David Platt
Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim. -Vicki Harrison
A mother is not defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love she holds in her heart. –Franchesca Cox
Before I ever carried the pain, I carried you. And, in my heart, I carry you still. –Rachel Whalen
On stillbirth: holding your child in your arms for the first, last, and only time. –Lindsey Henke
If I could choose from all the babies in the world, if I was offered the choice to give up the time I had with you for the certainty of a living baby, I hope you know this: I would still choose you. –Emily Long
A mother’s heart must be strong for it carries the weight of love and ache. –Jenny Albers
My baby may not be here, but they will always be a part of me. In my heart. In my soul. In my mind. And everywhere I go. –Yvette Mystakas
It is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have. –Cheryl Strayed
A mother’s grief is as timeless as her love. –Dr. Joanne Cacciatore
An immeasurable tragedy: I will love you for the rest of my life and you will not be here for any of it. –Chloë Frayne
You are rooted deep within my soul. Apart of me forever. In the deepest parts of my heart, there you are. – Jessi Snapp
I should know enough about loss to realize that you never really stop missing someone–you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence. -Alyson Noel
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I love these quotes. Thank you for sharing. If you are interested or know of anyone interested I’ve started a blog for healing after infant loss: healingafterinfantloss.wordpress.com
I suffered a pregnancy loss at 22 weeks and 6 days, unfortunately my marriage was unstable and my husband was emotionally unattached and somewhat abusive towards me during that time. I have recently started to link the traumatic loss and suffering with out support from loved ones too some serious emotional instability that is causing enormous issues in my marriage, relationships and inability to function. Mentally I am not in a good place.
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. It is incredibly traumatic and not feeling supported compounds that trauma. I found it helpful to seek support from a therapist or a support group that was not connected to my friends and family. I hope you can find someone to offer the support you need and deserve.
wftinc.org…I hope we can help. My wife is the doctor (MFM,High Risk Ob/Gyn) who cannot find the heartbeat on the ultrasound. I am the dad who never got to meet my son Jameson.