How To Support Someone Grieving During A Time Of Social Distancing

Two weeks into quarantine, I recieved a call from my friend telling me that her mother had died. While we knew she was sick and the prognosis was not great, the swiftness of it all was quite a shock. We spent several minutes crying together and wondering out loud at the finality of a beloved…

Read An Unexpected Family Outing’s 10 Most-Read Pieces of 2019

Here I sit at the end of another year. Another year of putting myself out there and sharing pieces of my story in the hopes of helping someone else cope with the pieces of their own. Another year of sitting in front of a keyboard trying to find words to capture the thoughts and feelings…

The pregnancy and infant loss bill of rights.

11 Things You Need To Know If You Have Experienced Pregnancy Or Infant Loss

When a pregnancy ends or a baby dies, there is such helplessness felt by the parents of that child. Losing your baby makes you feel as if you've lost your sense of self. How do you move forward after such heartbreak? How do you make sense amidst the devastation? This struggle can be made more…

To My Fellow Loss Mamas–I Love You No Matter What

Dear Courageous Mama, I want you to know that I love you. No matter when or how your baby died, you deserve nothing but love and support. And that, beautiful mama, is what I have for you. I love you in your moments of celebration.  I love you in your moments of grief. I love…

Know Your Circle–Using Ring Theory To Support Those Grieving

When my daughter was stillborn, I found myself exhausted. Her death had drained me and left me very little emotional strength to deal with anything or anyone else. I wanted support without any engagement, but that seemed like a lot to ask for. There were few people who would simply let me unload. Most people…

An Unexpected Family Outing’s Top 10 Pieces of 2018

A year ago, as the calendar flipped to 2018, I made a promise to myself. I promised that I would do everything I could to rise and meet my dreams. One of those dreams was to further establish myself as a writer and this year was proof that dreams come true. My words have been…

To The Mother Wishing For A Living Baby–You Don’t Need My Empty Promises

To the mother waiting for her living baby, I want to tell you that I love you.  I want to tell you that I think you are courageous and gracious and strong.  There are so many words that spill from my heart when I witness your pain and hear your story.  But, there is one…

July Is Bereaved Parents Month–How You Can Support The Bereaved Parent In Your Life

Even if you have a loved one who has experienced the loss of a child, you may not know that July is Bereaved Parents Months.  In the loss community there will be opportunities for bereaved parents to share and connect with other parents of loss.  But what you might notice is that even with all…