When You’re Gone: A Tribute to Dolores O’Riordan

If you know me at all, you had to know this was coming. I am devastated. Why? Because (I hope) everyone has that band, that musician who has acted as their buoy in life; who has kept them from drowning at one time or another. That band for me has been the Cranberries. The first…

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Navigating the Landscapes of Grief

It is a common misconception that grief is linear.  That if you follow a straight and narrow path and make all the necessary stops you will find an end to the road.  For those of us trekking through grief, we know that this is a falsehood. Grief is a journey that twists and turns and…

Counting My Blessings and Coming Up Short

I get it.  Thanksgiving is a time of year when I'm supposed to focus on what I have and not on what I want.  Instead, of hoping for more I am encouraged to be grateful with what is already present. No, thank you. Everyday I encounter people who believe that I should be thankful for…

What's it like to become a grieving parent

Now I’m Them–When You Realize What It’s Like To Be The Grieving Parent

Years ago, I received a phone call from a former co-worker, telling me that a student I knew had been hit by a car and died.  She was just about to turn 6 years old.  I was devastated by this news.  She was such a spunky and sweet girl who I had nicknamed Ramona, because…

What I Would Do If I Had One More Minute With My Baby Who Died

Minutes.  Everything I remember about the day that Dorothy died can be measured in minutes.  There were the minutes spent searching for a heartbeat that wasn't there.  The minutes spent delivering a baby that came so silently.  The minutes we were together as a family of three.   And when it was all over, there was…

When It Comes To Grieving–Go Ahead And Do It Your Own Way

If you are grieving, I want you to go ahead. Go ahead and ignore those who want to dictate how you grieve. Disregard any timelines imposed upon you. Tune out the noise of others and tune in to those whispers that come from within. Go ahead and do whatever brings you peace in this moment.…

10 Reasons I Love My Loss Family

This is my declaration of love for those parents who know the pain of losing a child.  I want them to know why I love them. I love my loss family because... 1. They call me Mama.  After you lose your child, you ache for the chance to be the mother or the father that…