To The Parents Of The Child Who Should Be Starting Kindergarten — They Can Join My Classroom

Summer is winding down and I'm gearing up for a new school year. Yesterday, I sat down to finish my mailing for my new Kindergarten students. I worked my way through the list, personalizing each letter with my student's name (I feel like it adds a little extra love when you put pen to paper…

“Let Us Be The Whale”–A Grieving Mother’s Request

This summer's story of the orca whale grieving her calf evoked powerful emotions in the humans who watched her.  People everywhere are marveling at the innate connection that this whale has with her offspring.  It is nature in its most pure and simple form.  I agree. As a grieving mother, my heart bursts forward at the…

Why We Choose To Grieve Online And The One Thing You Can Do To Support Us

The online loss community is huge.  Right now, if you asked me to, I could give you the names of at least 100 bereaved parents I have met online.  And those, are just the ones I'm close to. Although social media can be wrought with triggers, many of us choose to grieve online.  Participating in…

I’m The Lady With The Dead Baby

I'm the lady with the dead baby. It's okay, I'm allowed to be so blunt because it's my truth.  I am the lady whose baby died. One day my baby was living and the next day she died.  That is what happened.  It doesn't offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when you…

When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal

When your child has died, you may be introduced to the concept of the "new normal."  This is the place where you are expected to reside after your loss.  It's meant to be a place where life will go on, but it will go on differently.  I am not against the concept of a new…

Thank You Mr. Ramsey: Why That Cartoon of Barbara and Robin Mattered SO Much

Dear Marshall Ramsey, Thank you.  Those words don't seem nearly big enough right now for the incredible gift you have given our community.  What community is that?  I'm talking about our community of bereaved parents.  Loss moms and dads.  We are a tribe of people being forced to live here on Earth without one or…

40 MORE Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby

When I wrote my first list, 40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby, the response was overwhelming.  Moms and dads everywhere could relate to many of the items on the list. I also heard from many of you that the list was incomplete.  I agree.  Unfortunately, the list of things that SUCK after losing…