When It Comes To Grieving–Go Ahead And Do It Your Own Way

If you are grieving, I want you to go ahead. Go ahead and ignore those who want to dictate how you grieve. Disregard any timelines imposed upon you. Tune out the noise of others and tune in to those whispers that come from within. Go ahead and do whatever brings you peace in this moment.…

10 Reasons I Love My Loss Family

This is my declaration of love for those parents who know the pain of losing a child.  I want them to know why I love them. I love my loss family because... 1. They call me Mama.  After you lose your child, you ache for the chance to be the mother or the father that…

The Choices We Must Make When Our Baby Dies

There is a popular philosophy that our happiness in life comes down to the choices we make.  According to this philosophy, your mood and your circumstances are a reflection of the choices you have made.  It suggests that if you are unhappy with your life, all you need to do is make a different choice.…

The Power of ‘And’: How One Word Changed The Way I Grieve

Five weeks after Dorothy died, my nephew was born.  I remember going to to our weekly therapy session and sharing this news with our therapist.  Of course she wanted to know how I was feeling about his arrival.  I replied that I was so happy that he was safely here but I was also happy…

To The Mother Whose Baby Has Died–I Know, Because My Baby Died Too

Dear Beautiful Mother, I know.   I know how it feels to have your heart feel both heavy and hollow.  I know how it feels for your arms to ache from the emptiness they are holding.  I know that your life will never be the same.  There is no going back to the way things…

Finding My Path

Grief is a journey.  It's not a road with a beginning and an end, but a maze of complicated landscapes and twisting paths.  As you start to get your bearing, you are likely to look up and find yourself helplessly lost and wondering which way to go.  Any progress you make is marred by the…

Happy Birthday Dorothy

Dear Dorothy, Happy birthday to you.  How incredible that it has been a year since you entered our world and how incredibly heartbreaking that it has been a year since we said good-bye.  It has been the most heartbreaking blessing to have spent this last year as your parents, your advocates, and your memory keepers.…