Men don't grieve differently because they are men, they grieve differently because no one grieves the same.

Let’s Stop Telling Men How They Grieve–Just Let Them Grieve

So often when we talk about pregnancy and infant loss, there is a light being shone on the bereaved mother.  She is vulnerable and strong all at once.  She inspires our deepest sympathies and encourages us to listen to her story. But, what about the fathers? Despite our best intentions, women have become the face…

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I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time

I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone.  It could be anything.  Anytime.  Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…

A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us.  If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief.   You might not think it possible…

“Let Us Be The Whale”–A Grieving Mother’s Request

This summer's story of the orca whale grieving her calf evoked powerful emotions in the humans who watched her.  People everywhere are marveling at the innate connection that this whale has with her offspring.  It is nature in its most pure and simple form.  I agree. As a grieving mother, my heart bursts forward at the…

When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal

When your child has died, you may be introduced to the concept of the "new normal."  This is the place where you are expected to reside after your loss.  It's meant to be a place where life will go on, but it will go on differently.  I am not against the concept of a new…

40 MORE Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby

When I wrote my first list, 40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby, the response was overwhelming.  Moms and dads everywhere could relate to many of the items on the list. I also heard from many of you that the list was incomplete.  I agree.  Unfortunately, the list of things that SUCK after losing…

What I wish I had known about my miscarriage

10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Miscarriage

Before my first miscarriage I thought I understood what miscarriage was--your pregnancy would come to an end, you would probably be sad, and then you would move on.  I thought I knew it all and in reality, I knew so very little.  Before I began sharing my own experience, I had never really heard anyone…