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Two weeks into quarantine, I recieved a call from my friend telling me that her mother had died. While we knew she was sick and the prognosis was not great, the swiftness of it all was quite a shock. We spent several minutes crying together and wondering out loud at the finality of a beloved…
Continue reading ➞ How To Support Someone Grieving During A Time Of Social Distancing
When my daughter was stillborn, I found myself exhausted. Her death had drained me and left me very little emotional strength to deal with anything or anyone else. I wanted support without any engagement, but that seemed like a lot to ask for. There were few people who would simply let me unload. Most people…
Continue reading ➞ Know Your Circle–Using Ring Theory To Support Those Grieving
These words are for those who have known the heartache of pregnancy and infant loss-the mothers and fathers, grandparents, and loved ones. I am writing for those of you who so lovingly share your stories of loss and the photos of your babies gone too soon. I need you to know something. Your story is…
I used to pride myself on being the kind of person who would do anything for anyone. I regularly put the needs and wants of others before my own. I thought I was being such a nice person if I considered the people around me at the sake of ignoring myself. When my daughter was…
I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone. It could be anything. Anytime. Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…
Continue reading ➞ I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time
Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us. If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief. You might not think it possible…
Continue reading ➞ A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss
This summer's story of the orca whale grieving her calf evoked powerful emotions in the humans who watched her. People everywhere are marveling at the innate connection that this whale has with her offspring. It is nature in its most pure and simple form. I agree. As a grieving mother, my heart bursts forward at the…
Continue reading ➞ “Let Us Be The Whale”–A Grieving Mother’s Request
Dearest daughter, I never knew how soon how a mother heart could start beating. Then, little one, I heard your mother heart beating inside that tiny body and in its cadence I heard the truth about mother hearts everywhere. I love to watch the lub-dub of your mother heart as you play with your baby…
Continue reading ➞ I Want My Daughter To Know That Mothers Are Not Made–They Just Are