40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby

No matter how you've lost them, losing a baby sucks.  It really does. Here's what else has the potential to suck after losing a baby. 1. Baby shower invites. 2. Social media. 3. Playgrounds. 4. Small talk. 5. Commercials for pregnancy tests. 6. Crying in the grocery store. 7. Crying at work. 8. Crying in…

Enough with the silence--let's talk about stillbirth.

Enough With The Silence–We Need To Talk About Stillbirth

It was almost 9:00 at night when I was admitted to the hospital.  An hour later and I had been visited by doctors from at least four different departments.  There was the doctor from Maternal-Fetal Medicine who was there to give me the Cliff-Notes on preeclampsia and explain how shitty I was going to feel on…

My Stillborn Baby Still Has A Birth Story

On February 22, 2016 our daughter, Dorothy Grace Helena Whalen was stillborn.  This is a continuation of her story. When I transferred to the Intensive Care Unit, everything came with me--large plastic bags stuffed with clothing, haphazardly stacked books and magazines, a jumble of flower arrangements.  All of this traveled on a large, noisy cart as I was rushed from labor…

My Baby Died, Please Don’t Let Me Die Too

On February 22, 2016 our daughter, Dorothy Grace Helena Whalen was stillborn.  This is the continuation of her story. The shock and devastation of losing Dorothy had numbed me.  No longer was I aware of the experience of my own body.  I knew Dorothy was gone, that she had died, but I was not yet aware of how sick…

I’m Sorry, There Is No Heartbeat

On February 22, 2016 our daughter, Dorothy Grace Helena Whalen was stillborn.  This is her story. They were ready to send me home.  So, they were going to send me home and have me visit the hospital daily for monitoring.  I was on board.  I felt fine. Dorothy was doing well, and I imagined it would be best…

What I wish I had known about my miscarriage

10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Miscarriage

Before my first miscarriage I thought I understood what miscarriage was--your pregnancy would come to an end, you would probably be sad, and then you would move on.  I thought I knew it all and in reality, I knew so very little.  Before I began sharing my own experience, I had never really heard anyone…

To The Mother Whose Baby Has Died–I Know, Because My Baby Died Too

Dear Beautiful Mother, I know.   I know how it feels to have your heart feel both heavy and hollow.  I know how it feels for your arms to ache from the emptiness they are holding.  I know that your life will never be the same.  There is no going back to the way things…