After Losing My Own Baby, I Now Avoid Baby Showers

They're having a baby shower at work and I will not be going. While everyone gathers together in celebration, I will find a place to hide. I will come up with an excuse for the co-worker who passes me in the hall on their way to the baby shower and wonders if I'm coming. I…

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Putting myself first after my daughter's stillbirth helped me to heal.

My Baby’s Death Made Me A Self-Centered Person And I Wouldn’t Have It Any Other Way

I used to pride myself on being the kind of person who would do anything for anyone.  I regularly put the needs and wants of others before my own.  I thought I was being such a nice person if I considered the people around me at the sake of ignoring myself. When my daughter was…

How to survive the holidays when you are grieving.

How to Survive the Holidays–An Alternative Guide For Grievers

The holidays are here and you are feeling less than jolly.  I get it. You are exhausted from participating in the pageantry of the season while trying to carry your heart that is heavy with grief.  It feels unfair that you have to work so hard at self-care and demonstrating kindness just to keep yourself…