I Won’t Put A Trigger Warning On My Baby Who Died And Why No Parent Should Have To

These words are for those who have known the heartache of pregnancy and infant loss-the mothers and fathers, grandparents, and loved ones.  I am writing for those of you who so lovingly share your stories of loss and the photos of your babies gone too soon. I need you to know something. Your story is…

Therapy can be an important tool in healing after loss.

Using Therapy To Heal After Pregnancy And Infant Loss

There’s an assumption that people go to therapy to fix what’s broken.  I believe this is a reason why people regard therapy with such hesitation.  It’s painful to face your fragmented life and it can be even more painful to pick up the pieces. If you’re a bereaved parent, you might not see the point…

To The Mother Wishing For A Living Baby–You Don’t Need My Empty Promises

To the mother waiting for her living baby, I want to tell you that I love you.  I want to tell you that I think you are courageous and gracious and strong.  There are so many words that spill from my heart when I witness your pain and hear your story.  But, there is one…

All Moms Need Support — Grieving Moms, Too

To All The Mamas Who Have Nothing But Love For Other Mamas, You know who you are. You're the moms who are constantly reaching out and waving your flags of solidarity for the new moms on the block. You are the moms who are there for the breastfeeding moms and the formula moms. You high-five…

July Is Bereaved Parents Month–How You Can Support The Bereaved Parent In Your Life

Even if you have a loved one who has experienced the loss of a child, you may not know that July is Bereaved Parents Months.  In the loss community there will be opportunities for bereaved parents to share and connect with other parents of loss.  But what you might notice is that even with all…

Why We Choose To Grieve Online And The One Thing You Can Do To Support Us

The online loss community is huge.  Right now, if you asked me to, I could give you the names of at least 100 bereaved parents I have met online.  And those, are just the ones I'm close to. Although social media can be wrought with triggers, many of us choose to grieve online.  Participating in…

I’m The Lady With The Dead Baby

I'm the lady with the dead baby. It's okay, I'm allowed to be so blunt because it's my truth.  I am the lady whose baby died. One day my baby was living and the next day she died.  That is what happened.  It doesn't offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when you…