What I Would Do If I Had One More Minute With My Baby Who Died

Minutes.  Everything I remember about the day that Dorothy died can be measured in minutes.  There were the minutes spent searching for a heartbeat that wasn't there.  The minutes spent delivering a baby that came so silently.  The minutes we were together as a family of three.   And when it was all over, there was…

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Dear Dorothy: A Letter for the Changing Seasons

Dear Dorothy, Hey there baby girl.  October's almost over and it's just starting to feel like autumn is here.  The seasons have been slow to change over this year.  Summer and autumn seem like they're trying to live together, but eventually summer will retreat into memory and autumn will be allowed to shine.  This changing…

When It Comes To Grieving–Go Ahead And Do It Your Own Way

If you are grieving, I want you to go ahead. Go ahead and ignore those who want to dictate how you grieve. Disregard any timelines imposed upon you. Tune out the noise of others and tune in to those whispers that come from within. Go ahead and do whatever brings you peace in this moment.…

10 Reasons I Love My Loss Family

This is my declaration of love for those parents who know the pain of losing a child.  I want them to know why I love them. I love my loss family because... 1. They call me Mama.  After you lose your child, you ache for the chance to be the mother or the father that…

My Darkest Days

Loss has changed the light in my world.  Before Dorothy's death, there were days of dark and light.  Even if the darkness settled in for a stay, the light that followed was clear and bright.  The world would sparkle before my eyes with dazzling color.  This is no longer what I see.  I still have…

How You Can Support Your Loved One During Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

If you have a loved one who has experienced pregnancy or infant loss, you may already know that October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.  You may have noticed what an important month this is in our loss community.  You may be aware of events taking place to commemorate this month.  But have you…

The Choices We Must Make When Our Baby Dies

There is a popular philosophy that our happiness in life comes down to the choices we make.  According to this philosophy, your mood and your circumstances are a reflection of the choices you have made.  It suggests that if you are unhappy with your life, all you need to do is make a different choice.…