To the person who gave me advice on my grief--here's what you need to know.

To The Person Who Gave Me Advice On My Grief–Here’s What You Need To Know

When someone is grieving, people want to offer support.  Instead, they offer advice.  Advice is not always supportive.  Especially if the person offering the advice has never been through the same experience as the person they are trying to support.  I once had a conversation with a family member who felt like they were helping. …

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Songs of 2016

Recently I was fortunate to have my contribution selected for a musical retrospective on Vermont Public Radio .  The prompt was to choose a song that represented a moment, experience or mood from 2016.  I easily chose my song to contribute, but I felt so many other songs rattling around in my head that I…

Christmas 2016

By Mike Whalen Rarely do I find solace in religion or Biblical stories but I find myself reflecting on the Christmas story.  Today we gathered to celebrate the birth of a child. This child, the Christ child, was born to suffer and die. Aren't we all though?  Birth, suffer, death. Repeat. Mary seems uniquely positioned…

A Letter to My Girls on Christmas

Dear Dorothy and Frances, Another Christmas day is coming to an end and you two have been in my thoughts so much today.  I'm learning that being a mother of two can be a bit of a balancing act; one that I still struggle with sometimes.  However, days like today I am again surprised at…

Finding the Joy (and Balance) in the Holidays

I love Christmas.  I always have.  I think it's the most magical time of the year.  I know for many, the holidays are an incredible source of stress but I love an entire season devoted to helping others and spending time with the people you love.  After Dorothy died, I found myself terrified of many…

There Are Cracks Everywhere

Everything feels so much more complicated when you are a bereaved parent.  Simple, everyday tasks can take an emotional toll.  So, when you are dealing with an already complicated situation, like dealing with a salesperson over the telephone, the emotional toll is even more costly. Recently, I had to reach out to a baby furniture…