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The experience of having your baby die--it is hard stuff. Those first minutes and days and weeks feel impossible. You find yourself living minute to minute. You are just trying to get one moment further in this new life you didn't ask for. The most basic tasks of living feel arduous. Breathing, eating, bathing, sitting…
Continue reading ➞ The Grief Of Your Baby’s Death Gets Easier To Carry–And It Never Stops Being Hard
To the mother waiting for her living baby, I want to tell you that I love you. I want to tell you that I think you are courageous and gracious and strong. There are so many words that spill from my heart when I witness your pain and hear your story. But, there is one…
Continue reading ➞ To The Mother Wishing For A Living Baby–You Don’t Need My Empty Promises
Chances are, even if you don't know who, you know someone whose life has been impacted a stillbirth. If you are aware of this, then you probably know how important it is to acknowledge and honor the baby who was lost. You may have heard the parents ask for you to say their baby's name…
Continue reading ➞ I Need You To Know That My Stillbirth Was Still A Birth
I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone. It could be anything. Anytime. Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…
Continue reading ➞ I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time
Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us. If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief. You might not think it possible…
Continue reading ➞ A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss
I'm the person with the dead baby. It's okay, I'm allowed to be so blunt because it's my truth. I am the person whose baby died. One day my baby was living and the next day they died. That is what happened. It doesn't offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when you…
Continue reading ➞ It’s Me–I’m The Person With The Dead Baby
When your child has died, you may be introduced to the concept of the "new normal." This is the place where you are expected to reside after your loss. It's meant to be a place where life will go on, but it will go on differently. I am not against the concept of a new…
Continue reading ➞ When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal
It was almost 9:00 at night when I was admitted to the hospital. An hour later and I had been visited by doctors from at least four different departments. There was the doctor from Maternal-Fetal Medicine who was there to give me the Cliff-Notes on preeclampsia and explain how shitty I was going to feel on…
Continue reading ➞ Enough With The Silence–We Need To Talk About Stillbirth