A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us.  If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief.   You might not think it possible…

It’s Me–I’m The Person With The Dead Baby

I'm the person with the dead baby. It's okay, I'm allowed to be so blunt because it's my truth.  I am the person whose baby died. One day my baby was living and the next day they died.  That is what happened.  It doesn't offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when you…

When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal

When your child has died, you may be introduced to the concept of the "new normal."  This is the place where you are expected to reside after your loss.  It's meant to be a place where life will go on, but it will go on differently.  I am not against the concept of a new…

What I wish I had known about my miscarriage

10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Miscarriage

Before my first miscarriage I thought I understood what miscarriage was--your pregnancy would come to an end, you would probably be sad, and then you would move on.  I thought I knew it all and in reality, I knew so very little.  Before I began sharing my own experience, I had never really heard anyone…