To The Mother Wishing For A Living Baby–You Don’t Need My Empty Promises

To the mother waiting for her living baby, I want to tell you that I love you.  I want to tell you that I think you are courageous and gracious and strong.  There are so many words that spill from my heart when I witness your pain and hear your story.  But, there is one…

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I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time

I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone.  It could be anything.  Anytime.  Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…

A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us.  If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief.   You might not think it possible…

I’m The Lady With The Dead Baby

I'm the lady with the dead baby. It's okay, I'm allowed to be so blunt because it's my truth.  I am the lady whose baby died. One day my baby was living and the next day she died.  That is what happened.  It doesn't offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when you…

When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal

When your child has died, you may be introduced to the concept of the "new normal."  This is the place where you are expected to reside after your loss.  It's meant to be a place where life will go on, but it will go on differently.  I am not against the concept of a new…

What I wish I had known about my miscarriage

10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Miscarriage

Before my first miscarriage I thought I understood what miscarriage was--your pregnancy would come to an end, you would probably be sad, and then you would move on.  I thought I knew it all and in reality, I knew so very little.  Before I began sharing my own experience, I had never really heard anyone…