The day my daughter died was a hard day, but the hardest day of my life was the day I picked up her remains.

I Didn’t Know They Made Urns That Tiny

The day that my daughter died was a very difficult day, but it is not the worst day of my life.  It's not the worst day because it was also the day she was born.  Her birthday and her death day are forever intertwined--one a moment of light and the other a moment of darkness…

It's been over two years and I still don't know what to do with my daughter's remains.

All That Remains–Why I Haven’t Laid My Daughter To Rest

All that remains of my daughter, Dorothy, rests on my desk.  Nestled in between a stack of journals and my pencil cup of felt tip pens, there is a tiny ceramic urn adorned with a floral pattern in purple and ivory.  I wish I could give a poignant reason for her being there. But, the…

I am moving on after the death of my child and I am taking her with me.

I Am “Moving On” After The Death Of My Child — And I Am Taking Her With Me

I'm not sure who was the first to say it, but after my daughter, Dorothy, died there were many who assured me that I would move on.  They phrased it like a promise -- a reassurance that one day soon I would set down my grief and return to a life of happiness.  In my…

I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time

I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone.  It could be anything.  Anytime.  Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…

July Is Bereaved Parents Month–How You Can Support The Bereaved Parent In Your Life

Even if you have a loved one who has experienced the loss of a child, you may not know that July is Bereaved Parents Months.  In the loss community there will be opportunities for bereaved parents to share and connect with other parents of loss.  But what you might notice is that even with all…

To the person who gave me advice on my grief--here's what you need to know.

To The Person Who Gave Me Advice On My Grief–Here’s What You Need To Know

When someone is grieving, people want to offer support.  Instead, they offer advice.  Advice is not always supportive.  Especially if the person offering the advice has never been through the same experience as the person they are trying to support.  I once had a conversation with a family member who felt like they were helping. …