Congrats On Keeping The Kids Alive–I’m The Mom Who Couldn’t

I hear it at least once a week--usually from a meme on social media. Someone joking that "at least I kept the kids alive." While other moms might scroll by with a giggle and barely a second thought--I cringe. I could go my whole life without ever having to hear or read those words again.…

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Grieving Parents Build Bridges Between Their Children Who Died And Those Who Keep On Living

So many wonder how grieving parents continue on in a world without their child who died. How can they traverse the terrain where their child's feet will never again tread? How do they keep going? Why do they continue on? We keep going because we are the bridge builders. We keep going because we are…

Living A Life That’s Incomplete–Why It’s So Hard When Your Child Dies And Why Life Is Still Worth Living

Child loss is hard. We know this. It’s a universal understanding that losing a child is one of the most difficult experiences a person will endure, but still, a question arises. Why is this so hard? I’ve heard this question about grief and child loss asked again and again. I’ve been asked by those who have lost…

We Left The Hospital With A Box Instead Of Our Baby

We left the hospital with a box. It wasn't supposed to be that way. We were supposed to leave with a baby--a living, breathing, adorable baby. A baby to take home and love and raise. One that we would watch grow up into a toddler and a child and a teenager. But we left with…

Finding The Words–5 Things To Say After A Baby Dies

When a baby dies it is devastating. It is an unexpected and heartbreaking tragedy. It is very possible that people might not know what to say and that makes sense. They may wonder how could words ever be enough to take away the pain? What could one possibly say to remove the burden of losing…

Honor Your Grief AND The Environment–5 Sustainable Ways To Memorialize Your Loved One

There is no one way to grieve. This is fact. Grief does not come with a rule book. We are not meant to judge the grief experience of another. However, there is one grief practice that I would like reconsidered--the balloon release. Many people choose to release balloons to memorialize their deceased loved ones. Often…

Dear Abby: Your Advice About Grief Is Not Helpful And It Hurts

Oh, Abby. I saw your column today--the one where you gave advice to Crystal in Nevada. She wrote to you asking how to cope with her aunt who had a stillbirth 20 years ago. Crystal wanted to know how to talk to this aunt who lives such a “morbid lifestyle.” To encourage her to move…