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I wonder what J.K. Rowling would think if she knew that she has a fan club among those who are grieving. I can't imagine she would be too surprised. The Harry Potter books are imbued with references to grief and living after the loss of a loved one. In fact, J.K Rowling has stated that…
If you know me at all, you had to know this was coming. I am devastated. Why? Because (I hope) everyone has that band, that musician who has acted as their buoy in life; who has kept them from drowning at one time or another. That band for me has been the Cranberries. The first…
Continue reading ➞ When You’re Gone: A Tribute to Dolores O’Riordan
I have always wanted to be bilingual. In high school, I studied French and while my grades were excellent, my teenage ambition did not extend beyond my workbook pages. C'est la vie. Now, almost three years after my first miscarriage, I find myself fluent in a language that does not easily translate. It is not…
Continue reading ➞ The Language of PAIL (Pregnancy And Infant Loss)
It is a common misconception that grief is linear. That if you follow a straight and narrow path and make all the necessary stops you will find an end to the road. For those of us trekking through grief, we know that this is a falsehood. Grief is a journey that twists and turns and…
It is our second Christmas without Dorothy. The second year in a row where I find myself alternating between belting out Christmas songs with an almost-convincing bravado and staring at the twinkle lights as they blur through my tear-filled eyes. A subsequent year of loneliness and "what-ifs" and pretending to the be the last 5…
The holidays are here and you are feeling less than jolly. I get it. You are exhausted from participating in the pageantry of the season while trying to carry your heart that is heavy with grief. It feels unfair that you have to work so hard at self-care and demonstrating kindness just to keep yourself…
Continue reading ➞ How to Survive the Holidays–An “Alternative” Guide For Grievers
I get it. Thanksgiving and the holidays bring in the time of year when I'm supposed to focus on what I have and not on what I want. Instead, of hoping for more I am encouraged to be grateful with what is already present. No, thank you. Everyday I encounter people who believe that I…
Continue reading ➞ During The Holiday Season, Grief And Gratitude Can Sit At The Same Table
Minutes. Everything I remember about the day that Dorothy died can be measured in minutes. There were the minutes spent searching for a heartbeat that wasn't there. The minutes spent delivering a baby that came so silently. The minutes we were together as a family of three. And when it was all over, there was…
Continue reading ➞ What I Would Do If I Had One More Minute With My Baby Who Died