7 Ways To Include the Grieving Mother On Mother’s Day

My first Mother's Day was a lonely one. It had been only 2 months since my daughter was stillborn and while I wasn't exactly expecting an endless stream of cards and well-wishers, I was expecting something. After all, I was a mother. The day came and went with very little reach-out from friends and family.…

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I Saw The Photo Of The 8 Pregnant Nurses And It Made Me Wonder–Who Is Missing From The Picture?

By now you've probably seen this picture. You've probably heard of the 9 labor and delivery nurses who are all pregnant at the same time.  When I look at this picture, I feel happy for these women and their shared experience. I wish them all the very best in their pregnancy. But, my heart truly…

The Mental Load Of The Grieving Mother

I do not consider myself to be busier than any other mother I know. I'm sure we all have the same sinks piled high with dishes, the same stack of bills, and the same pick-up/drop-off schedules to coordinate. There are the same doctor's appointments to schedule, the same load of laundry that's been washed three…

The pregnancy and infant loss bill of rights.

The Pregnancy And Infant Loss Bill Of Rights

When a pregnancy ends or a baby dies, there is such helplessness felt by the parents of that child. Losing your baby makes you feel as if you've lost your sense of self. How do you move forward after such heartbreak? How do you make sense amidst the devastation? This struggle can be made more…

A grieving parent knows the ultimate heartache and they are never alone.

A Grieving Parent Knows The Ultimate Heartache–And They Are Never Alone

My baby sleeps on my nightstand--maybe yours does too. Maybe you know what it's like to open your eyes each morning and rest your gaze on that tiny urn containing your child's ashes. Or maybe your child spends their nights on a special shelf, on a table in your living room, or next to a…

There’s So Much I Didn’t Know About Losing A Baby Until It Happened To Me

When I say that my daughter died, people will often respond: "I'm sorry I didn't know." Their response makes me smile in that sad sort of way because it reminds me that when my baby died, there was so much I didn't know. I didn't know it was possible to keep breathing when your baby's…

Sleepless Nights Aren’t Just For The Moms Who Bring Home Their Babies

People love to tell moms-to-be about how exhausted they are going to be. Some almost seem to get a thrill from teasing about the sleepless nights that lay ahead. "Just you wait," they'll say with a knowing smirk, "life with a baby is exhausting." I wonder if they know that life without the baby is…