The pregnancy and infant loss bill of rights.

11 Things You Need To Know If You Have Experienced Pregnancy Or Infant Loss

When a pregnancy ends or a baby dies, there is such helplessness felt by the parents of that child. Losing your baby makes you feel as if you've lost your sense of self. How do you move forward after such heartbreak? How do you make sense amidst the devastation? This struggle can be made more…

A grieving parent knows the ultimate heartache and they are never alone.

A Grieving Parent Knows The Ultimate Heartache

My baby sleeps on my nightstand--maybe yours does too. Maybe you know what it's like to open your eyes each morning and rest your gaze on that tiny urn containing your child's ashes. Or maybe your child spends their nights on a special shelf, on a table in your living room, or next to a…

To Those Who Don’t Know What It’s Like To Have Your Baby Die, Consider It Your Privilege

When I say that my daughter died, people will often respond: "I'm sorry I didn't know." Their response makes me smile in that sad sort of way because it reminds me that when my baby died, there was so much I didn't know. I didn't know it was possible to keep breathing when your baby's…

Sleepless Nights Aren’t Just For The Moms Who Bring Home Their Babies

People love to tell moms-to-be about how exhausted they are going to be. Some almost seem to get a thrill from teasing about the sleepless nights that lay ahead. "Just you wait," they'll say with a knowing smirk, "life with a baby is exhausting." I wonder if they know that life without the baby is…

The Truth About Baby Loss–Others Will Never Understand And You Will Always Remember

To the parent who has lost a child, Do you have a person in your life who never mentions your child? Do you know someone who changes the subject when you mention the piece of your heart that is missing? Do you know what it's like to be pulled aside and told that it's time…

Grief Is Not Just Surviving Those First Minutes, It’s About Living All The Minutes That Come After

I didn't hear the door close, but I felt it. I sat up just enough in my hospital bed so I could look that way. Just visible through the glass was the outline of the nurse's shoulders--hunched and tense as she so carefully carried my daughter out of the room. I quickly looked away. I…

When A Baby Dies, You’re Reminded Of Them Everywhere Because They Are Missing Everything

There's a sense of uncertainty when your baby dies. Whether you've lost them at 5 weeks gestation or 10 months after birth, it can be difficult to figure out how to grieve a life so brief. Grief is so often tied to the memories we have of the deceased. We find comfort in thinking about…

Yes, I Had A Miscarriage And Yes, I Flushed

I was not well prepared for what it would be like to have a miscarriage. I figured there would be blood, but I didn't realize how much. I assumed there would be cramping, but I didn't know it would be so intense. I had vague ideas of what it would be to have a miscarriage,…