I Have A Living Baby–Why Am I Still Jealous Of Pregnancy Announcements?

Does everyone get pregnant at the same time? That's the way it seems. It's like the saying "Good things come in threes." Well, pregnancy announcements seem to come in nines and tens. It feels like they're everywhere and to be honest, I don't cope with that very well. Why, you ask, is it so difficult…

I Saw The Photo Of The 8 Pregnant Nurses And It Made Me Wonder–Who Is Missing From The Picture?

By now you've probably seen this picture. You've probably heard of the 9 labor and delivery nurses who are all pregnant at the same time.  When I look at this picture, I feel happy for these women and their shared experience. I wish them all the very best in their pregnancy. But, my heart truly…

We’re Not Laughing–Why It’s Time To Stop Posting Fake Pregnancy Announcements On Facebook

If you have a Facebook account, then you've probably seen your fair share of fake pregnancy announcements. Maybe it's because they're often copied and pasted from somewhere else, but they're always the same. A blurry ultrasound photo accompanied by a lengthy caption containing far too many exclamation points and feigned surprise at the new arrival…

Can A Marriage Survive Pregnancy loss and infertility?

The Question That Can Collapse A Marriage–What If We Never Have A Child?

A romantic relationship is built on the answers to some very important questions.  Questions like, “Where do you see this going?”  can cement for us whether a certain person is the one.  These questions help us to determine if a person shares your dreams for the future. It’s an opportunity to map out the building…

To The Mother Wishing For A Living Baby–You Don’t Need My Empty Promises

To the mother waiting for her living baby, I want to tell you that I love you.  I want to tell you that I think you are courageous and gracious and strong.  There are so many words that spill from my heart when I witness your pain and hear your story.  But, there is one…

I Want My Daughter To Know That Mothers Are Not Made–They Just Are

Dearest daughter, I never knew how soon how a mother heart could start beating. Then, little one, I heard your mother heart beating inside that tiny body and in its cadence I heard the truth about mother hearts everywhere. I love to watch the lub-dub of your mother heart as you play with your baby…

The Language of PAIL (Pregnancy And Infant Loss)

I have always wanted to be bilingual.  In high school, I studied French and while my grades were excellent, my teenage ambition did not extend beyond my workbook pages.  C'est la vie. Now, almost three years after my first miscarriage, I find myself fluent in a language that does not easily translate.  It is not…