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Losing three babies in two years changed me. Gone was the woman who spoke in absolutes. No longer was I the person who punctuated her statements with certainty. Two miscarriages and a stillbirth changed literally changed the way I spoke. After losing three babies--my whens became ifs. With each loss, I felt less and less…
Continue reading ➞ After Miscarriage and Stillbirth The Whens Became Ifs
The experience of having your baby die--it is hard stuff. Those first minutes and days and weeks feel impossible. You find yourself living minute to minute. You are just trying to get one moment further in this new life you didn't ask for. The most basic tasks of living feel arduous. Breathing, eating, bathing, sitting…
Continue reading ➞ The Grief Of Your Baby’s Death Gets Easier To Carry–And It Never Stops Being Hard
My daughter, Frances, has a favorite game that we play. It’s called ‘baby in the mirror’ and it consists of her father or I holding her up so she can watch ‘the baby in the mirror.’ She is fascinated by her reflection and she seems both elated and unsure of what her mirror baby might…
Continue reading ➞ When Your Baby Dies And You Are Left Watching Another Live The Life You Lost
I’ve just revealed my story. I’m a bereaved parent. I’ve lost my baby. She died. After the awkward silence settles in and divides us, you mumble something about how you didn’t know. My heart goes out to you. How could you know? There is no mark to distinguish me as a bereaved parent; I look…
I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone. It could be anything. Anytime. Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…
Continue reading ➞ I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time
Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us. If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief. You might not think it possible…
Continue reading ➞ A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss
I get it. Thanksgiving and the holidays bring in the time of year when I'm supposed to focus on what I have and not on what I want. Instead, of hoping for more I am encouraged to be grateful with what is already present. No, thank you. Everyday I encounter people who believe that I…
Continue reading ➞ During The Holiday Season, Grief And Gratitude Can Sit At The Same Table