Know Your Circle–Using Ring Theory To Support Those Grieving

When my daughter was stillborn, I found myself exhausted. Her death had drained me and left me very little emotional strength to deal with anything or anyone else. I wanted support without any engagement, but that seemed like a lot to ask for. There were few people who would simply let me unload. Most people…

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I Won’t Put A Trigger Warning On My Baby Who Died And Why No Parent Should Have To

These words are for those who have known the heartache of pregnancy and infant loss-the mothers and fathers, grandparents, and loved ones.  I am writing for those of you who so lovingly share your stories of loss and the photos of your babies gone too soon. I need you to know something. Your story is…

Putting myself first after my daughter's stillbirth helped me to heal.

My Baby’s Death Made Me A Self-Centered Person And I Wouldn’t Have It Any Other Way

I used to pride myself on being the kind of person who would do anything for anyone.  I regularly put the needs and wants of others before my own.  I thought I was being such a nice person if I considered the people around me at the sake of ignoring myself. When my daughter was…

I Never Know When I’m Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time

I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone.  It could be anything.  Anytime.  Anywhere. I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are…

A Letter To The Woman I Was Before Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us.  If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief.   You might not think it possible…

To The Parents Of The Child Who Should Be Starting Kindergarten — They Can Join My Classroom

Summer is winding down and I'm gearing up for a new school year. Yesterday, I sat down to finish my mailing for my new Kindergarten students. I worked my way through the list, personalizing each letter with my student's name (I feel like it adds a little extra love when you put pen to paper…

“Let Us Be The Whale”–A Grieving Mother’s Request

This summer's story of the orca whale grieving her calf evoked powerful emotions in the humans who watched her.  People everywhere are marveling at the innate connection that this whale has with her offspring.  It is nature in its most pure and simple form.  I agree. As a grieving mother, my heart bursts forward at the…