Through Loss, Grief, And Trying Again–He Was There

He was there the day that we saw that first positive test. When we danced around the kitchen, calling our families to share our exciting news, he was there. And, two days later, when the cramping began and I watched my dreams bleed out, he was there. He was there when we dared to hope…

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To My Fellow Loss Mamas–I Love You No Matter What

Dear Courageous Mama, I want you to know that I love you. No matter when or how your baby died, you deserve nothing but love and support. And that, beautiful mama, is what I have for you. I love you in your moments of celebration.  I love you in your moments of grief. I love…

I Want My Daughter To Know That Mothers Are Not Made–They Just Are

Dearest daughter, I never knew how soon how a mother heart could start beating. Then, little one, I heard your mother heart beating inside that tiny body and in its cadence I heard the truth about mother hearts everywhere. I love to watch the lub-dub of your mother heart as you play with your baby…

No one wins at the grief Olympics.

No One Wins At The Grief Olympics

There is no winning with grief.  Yes, there are gains and there are definitely losses, but there is no way to determine who has reached the highest level of grief.  Unlike the Olympic athletes who showcase their strength and prowess, there are no set criteria to determine whose grief has earned them a medal. There are…

5 Truths About My Marriage After The Stillbirth Of Our Child

Staying married after your baby dies is a challenge. It can be a struggle to just keep yourself together--keeping a relationship intact can feel impossible. Some people say it's luck. Some people say it's hard work. In the case of my own marriage, I'm not sure if it was luck or work. I don't think…