7 Ways To Include the Grieving Mother On Mother’s Day

My first Mother's Day was a lonely one. It had been only 2 months since my daughter was stillborn and while I wasn't exactly expecting an endless stream of cards and well-wishers, I was expecting something. After all, I was a mother. The day came and went with very little reach-out from friends and family.…

Mothers Are Not Made By The Babies They Hold–Mothers Are Made By The Babies They Love

Why do we wait to hand out the title of mother? Why is a woman carrying a child only thought of as a mom-to-be. It's as if she won't be a mother until she's up all night with a crying baby or her house is strewn with toys and dirty laundry. Like she must earn…

The Mental Load Of The Grieving Mother

I do not consider myself to be busier than any other mother I know. I'm sure we all have the same sinks piled high with dishes, the same stack of bills, and the same pick-up/drop-off schedules to coordinate. There are the same doctor's appointments to schedule, the same load of laundry that's been washed three…

The Real Heroes Of The Abortion Debate Are The Mothers Facing Impossible Decisions

The words I write here are not for the people on the very many sides of the late-term abortion debate--the ones who mistake themselves as the heroes and the champions. The words I write here are for those who are trapped in the middle. The ones whose stories are being used to make a point.…

Even Though My Baby Died, You Can Still Call Me ‘Mama’

I remember when I announced my pregnancy and you said, "Congratulations Mama." I remember when my bump started showing and you squealed, "You look so good, Mama!" I remember at my baby shower when you asked, "Are you ready for this Mama?" And then, I had to tell you that my baby died. You told…

All Moms Need Support — Grieving Moms, Too

To All The Mamas Who Have Nothing But Love For Other Mamas, You know who you are. You're the moms who are constantly reaching out and waving your flags of solidarity for the new moms on the block. You are the moms who are there for the breastfeeding moms and the formula moms. You high-five…

“Let Us Be The Whale”–A Grieving Mother’s Request

This summer's story of the orca whale grieving her calf evoked powerful emotions in the humans who watched her.  People everywhere are marveling at the innate connection that this whale has with her offspring.  It is nature in its most pure and simple form.  I agree. As a grieving mother, my heart bursts forward at the…