Thank You Mr. Ramsey: Why That Cartoon of Barbara and Robin Mattered SO Much

Dear Marshall Ramsey, Thank you.  Those words don't seem nearly big enough right now for the incredible gift you have given our community.  What community is that?  I'm talking about our community of bereaved parents.  Loss moms and dads.  We are a tribe of people being forced to live here on Earth without one or…

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If We’re Really Curious About Motherhood, It’s Time To Ask New Questions

Imagine a big awards show for moms everywhere.  We'll call it The Momscars or the Mommys or something wittier that I haven't thought of yet.  There's a red carpet, dozens of photographers, a crowd of eager fans.  You saunter along, basking in the attention being lavished upon you.  This is your night.  A night to…

My Stillborn Baby Still Has A Birth Story

On February 22, 2016 our daughter, Dorothy Grace Helena Whalen was stillborn.  This is a continuation of her story. When I transferred to the Intensive Care Unit, everything came with me--large plastic bags stuffed with clothing, haphazardly stacked books and magazines, a jumble of flower arrangements.  All of this traveled on a large, noisy cart as I was rushed from labor…