We Need Pregnancy, Infant, and Child Loss Awareness Month But Not For The Reasons You Think

I'm a grieving mother. I've experienced two miscarriages and a stillbirth. Most of my babies have died. You would think that Pregnancy, Infant, and Child Loss Awareness Month would be just the month for me. Yes and no. You see, I don't really need a month to be aware that my babies died. I don't…

10 Instagram Accounts To Follow During Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month

When your baby dies all you want is someone who gets it. Someone who says what you've been thinking, feeling, struggling to find the words for. If you've experienced pregnancy and infant loss, you know finding that person can feel impossible. In the real world you can't exactly walk up to someone at the grocery…

I Don’t Need Help Finding The Bright Side Of Baby Loss–There Isn’t One

When my daughter died, everyone wanted to know what could they do. How could they help me feel better? What would make this easier? Their questions confused me. During the darkest days of my life, it seemed impossible to feel better. I could think of nothing that would cheer me up. It took some time…

We’re Not Laughing–Why It’s Time To Stop Posting Fake Pregnancy Announcements On Facebook

If you have a Facebook account, then you've probably seen your fair share of fake pregnancy announcements. Maybe it's because they're often copied and pasted from somewhere else, but they're always the same. A blurry ultrasound photo accompanied by a lengthy caption containing far too many exclamation points and feigned surprise at the new arrival…

An Unexpected Family Outing’s Top 10 Pieces of 2018

A year ago, as the calendar flipped to 2018, I made a promise to myself. I promised that I would do everything I could to rise and meet my dreams. One of those dreams was to further establish myself as a writer and this year was proof that dreams come true. My words have been…

Losing a baby gets easier--and it never stops being hard.

Losing A Baby Gets Easier–And It Never Stops Being Hard

The experience of having your baby die--it is hard stuff. Those first minutes and days and weeks feel impossible.  You find yourself living minute to minute.  You are just trying to get one moment further in this new life you didn't ask for.  The most basic tasks of living feel arduous.  Breathing, eating, bathing, sitting…

Men don't grieve differently because they are men, they grieve differently because no one grieves the same.

Let’s Stop Telling Men How They Grieve–Just Let Them Grieve

So often when we talk about pregnancy and infant loss, there is a light being shone on the bereaved mother.  She is vulnerable and strong all at once.  She inspires our deepest sympathies and encourages us to listen to her story. But, what about the fathers? Despite our best intentions, women have become the face…