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Child loss is hard. We know this. It’s a universal understanding that losing a child is one of the most difficult experiences a person will endure, but still, a question arises. Why is this so hard? I’ve heard this question about grief and child loss asked again and again. I’ve been asked by those who have lost…
Continue reading ➞ Why It’s So Hard When Your Child Dies And Why Life Is Still Worth Living
We left the hospital with a box. It wasn't supposed to be that way. We were supposed to leave with a baby--a living, breathing, adorable baby. A baby to take home and love and raise. One that we would watch grow up into a toddler and a child and a teenager. But we left with…
Continue reading ➞ We Left The Hospital With A Box Instead Of Our Baby
"I can't imagine what you're going through." If your baby has died, you have heard this phrase. I'll guess you've heard it more than once. Maybe it was written in a sympathy card that you could barely bring yourself to open in those first days of grief. It's what so many choose to say when…
Continue reading ➞ We Can Imagine What It’s Like When A Baby Dies–We Just Don’t Want To
When a baby dies it is devastating. It is an unexpected and heartbreaking tragedy. It is very possible that people might not know what to say and that makes sense. They may wonder how could words ever be enough to take away the pain? What could one possibly say to remove the burden of losing…
Continue reading ➞ Finding The Words–5 Things To Say To The Person Whose Baby Has Died
Oh, Abby. I saw your column today--the one where you gave advice to Crystal in Nevada. She wrote to you asking how to cope with her aunt who had a stillbirth 20 years ago. Crystal wanted to know how to talk to this aunt who lives such a “morbid lifestyle.” To encourage her to move…
Continue reading ➞ Dear Abby: Your Advice About Grief Is Not Helpful And It Hurts
I'm not one to issue advice, especially when no one's asking. I am especially hesitant to offer advice to a person when they are a pregnant, but I do have something I need to say. If you are pregnant, I want you to take the picture. No matter how far into your pregnancy you may…
Continue reading ➞ My Advice To The Person Who Is Pregnant–Take Your Picture
When my daughter died, everyone wanted to know what could they do. How could they help me feel better? What would make this easier? Their questions confused me. During the darkest days of my life, it seemed impossible to feel better. I could think of nothing that would cheer me up. It took some time…
Continue reading ➞ I Don’t Need Help Finding The Bright Side Of Baby Loss–There Isn’t One
My first Mother's Day was a lonely one. It had been only 2 months since my daughter was stillborn and while I wasn't exactly expecting an endless stream of cards and well-wishers, I was expecting something. After all, I was a mother. The day came and went with very little reach-out from friends and family.…
Continue reading ➞ 7 Ways To Include the Grieving Mother On Mother’s Day
