An Unexpected Family Outing’s Top 10 Pieces of 2018

A year ago, as the calendar flipped to 2018, I made a promise to myself. I promised that I would do everything I could to rise and meet my dreams. One of those dreams was to further establish myself as a writer and this year was proof that dreams come true. My words have been…

The New Year May Not Be A Fresh Start–But It’s Also Not An Ending

I think we put a lot of pressure on New Year's Day. We are eager for a fresh start and we place our hopes inside that first little box of the month. We promise ourselves that this will be our year--our new beginning. But, that's not what happens on New Year's Day. Do you know…

Grieving dads need support---especially from other grieving dads.

Dads Grieve Too–Resources For The Father Grieving Their Child

Dads grieve too. The women in our loss community say it often and we say it with such passion. Dads grieve too. However, right after we finish that statement a question inevitably arises.  Yes, dads grieve but how do we support them in their grief?   There’s a lot we, as women, can do. We can listen…

When my daughter died, it was a Kindergarten student who found the words to comfort me.

How A Child Found The Words To Ease My Grieving Heart

Baby Dorothy--that's what they called her. My Kindergarten class squealed in delight when I announced my pregnancy and they couldn't wait for her to arrive. Then, she died. When it was time to go back to work, I was afraid to see my students. I knew that they loved me and that they hurt for…

For all the nurses who heal with compassion after stillbirth and miscarriage

To The Nurses Whose Compassion Helped Me Heal After My Baby Was Stillborn

To the nurses, Thank you for saving me. Your skills and your knowledge saved me from following my daughter into death, but it was your compassion that guided me back towards life. The humanity you demonstrated is what brought me back into life; you made it possible to think about living after death. For this,…

I Won’t Put A Trigger Warning On My Baby Who Died And Why No Parent Should Have To

These words are for those who have known the heartache of pregnancy and infant loss-the mothers and fathers, grandparents, and loved ones.  I am writing for those of you who so lovingly share your stories of loss and the photos of your babies gone too soon. I need you to know something. Your story is…

Therapy can be an important tool in healing after loss.

Using Therapy To Heal After Pregnancy And Infant Loss

There’s an assumption that people go to therapy to fix what’s broken.  I believe this is a reason why people regard therapy with such hesitation.  It’s painful to face your fragmented life and it can be even more painful to pick up the pieces. If you’re a bereaved parent, you might not see the point…

To The Mother Wishing For A Living Baby–You Don’t Need My Empty Promises

To the mother waiting for her living baby, I want to tell you that I love you.  I want to tell you that I think you are courageous and gracious and strong.  There are so many words that spill from my heart when I witness your pain and hear your story.  But, there is one…